Kids = English first, Spanish second.

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For those that dont know, I am originally from Mexico,  is a difference between how you are raise in the south of the country and where I was born and raise, I was born in the Northwest part of the country, Baja California, on one side of the border. In this part of the country we are more expose to the US and the mexican culture is not that strong, I dont want to get into this, and explain it cause can be confusing, and I just want it to give you a back story for my post.

I am proud of who I am and my culture, but since I marry a wonderful man in the US, I move here, embrace this country as mine and love it. My hubby doesn't talk any Spanish, and he only understand a few words, like llantas, chichis, and cerveza (lol fyi you can Google this); because of this, inside my household we only speak English.

When I meet people from a Latin America country and leaving in this country, I always been ask "do your kids know Spanish" and my answer is always "the oldest knows and understand some and can speak with an accent but not the two youngest yet", with this they answer back, "oh!!!, are you going to teach them?", I know I will, but really offends me the way I been ask this, I most politely will answer back "of course I will, but not now, for one, I am in America, were everyone talk of course English, I don't want them to grab an accent and to be honest like I said before we only speak English (even with my accent) at my home, I find it offended if I would speak Spanish in front of my husband and he cant understand what is been told, I just find it disrespectful; two , why make my teachers a nightmare because my child doesn't know what is been said on the classroom, three, they get there fair share of Spanish when they visit they grandparents and last, in Junior High they will have classes of Spanish to speed them up.

I don't like the fact that I been judge for not teach them Spanish, they will, as soon they actually can handle the one they suppose to know now, I also believe in teach them not only Spanish but also maybe Japanese, Italian and others, this will help them in their future professions and languages are a wonderful thing.

 I just feel that people look at me like I am betraying my culture or something, like I said before, I embrace who I am and where I came from, but also embrace this wonderful country and what stands for like my own, so deal with it and stop the OHs!!!!!!

I Took a break from my thoughts

Sounds silly, but yes, that's what I did, life still was happening around, but with so many worries, the idea of focus my bad spelling and grammar was a no no. Life has not been easy the last couple of weeks. Need to go back to blogging, it really takes stress out of me.

Smile! Is not the end of the world.

Have you notice that if you have a two or four year old kid, most of the cases always something becomes a drama and a live and death situation?

Case and point, my son Cole (4yrs old), runs out of snacks or drink, I say "no more, you already had enough", his smile turns into wining, I keep saying no, wining turns into crying, is like he is almost having a near death experience; this will go on until I give up...or if I am lucky, he will fall sleep crying because i dont give in, you get my point?

Then, I realize that we as adults show this kinda behavior sometimes. Case and point, woman (not me) wants new pair of shoes, husband says "we cant afford it right now", woman throws a  tantrum, husband says " try to understand", woman starts dropping tears in silence but in a way to make the husband aware of them, result, he gives in.

Not getting what we want all the time should not become a fight of wills with our love ones, you will not die of hunger or thirst if you don't get that snack or drink; your feet will not get a medical mystery for the lack of that pair of shoes.

There is a time to reflect.

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For 10 years, every year on September 11, we remember the past. You might think that because I wasnt born and raise in this country, it will not feel anything, but your wrong.  On that morning I was still living in a border town from California, I woke up and the TV was showing live what was happening, the first plane just crash, I don't want to get into it, but I spend all day attached to the TV, I was overwhelm, cry and heartbroken to see what was happening. News were saying that the border was close and in high alert, It was strange seeing the road to cross the border empty at that time of the day, thats unheard to happen. I had a few friends in the military so as soon I knew this was a terrorist attack, I knew that sooner or later they would be deploy to find who ever has done this. 

For years to come on this day I spend hours watching the History Channel and many more channels, reviving this moments, don't ask me why, I just think that in my mind I felt that record this event in my mind would be important for the future. Now that I have my husband and children, born and raise Americans, I understood that is important explaining my children what happen, remember and never forget the people lost on that day. I love this country, since I marry I embrace it as mine, I love for what stands for, and every day I try to learn the history, the past; and by learning the past, I can explain my kids the present, so they understand and be thankful of their future.

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